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Summary
TLDRIn this engaging video transcript, the Lebrand family discusses their online presence and the challenges of parenting in the digital age. They touch on the decision to potentially change their family channel's name and the difficulty of creating content with four children. The family candidly answers 14 tough questions from their Instagram followers, ranging from their approach to discipline and gift-giving to their thoughts on adopting their eldest child, Everly. They also delve into how they maintain a strong marriage, their choice to wait until marriage, and the balance they strike between sharing their children's lives online and protecting their privacy. The Lebrands emphasize the importance of teamwork in parenting, setting boundaries, and preparing their children for the potential negativity of social media. They provide insight into their family dynamics, including how they handle disagreements and their decision to limit their children's exposure to sleepovers. This summary offers a glimpse into the Lebrand family's values, their commitment to their children's well-being, and the authenticity they strive to maintain in their online community.
Takeaways
- π₯ The Lebrand family is considering changing their channel name to 'Cole and Sav Channel', reflecting their focus on family content.
- π¨βπ©βπ§βπ¦ They acknowledge the challenges of managing content creation with four kids and the impact it has on their channel's direction.
- π The family enjoys creating content around holidays, like decorating their Christmas tree, which they find to be a fun and genuine activity to share.
- π± They admit that not all content is perfectly planned; Savannah often does not know what they are filming, adding an element of authenticity to their videos.
- π€ The couple engages with their audience by answering difficult questions through a game, showing their willingness to be open and vulnerable.
- π§ They discuss the possibility of adopting their daughter Everly, emphasizing that the decision is entirely up to her.
- πΉ The family promotes a health supplement, AG1, which they claim has improved their nutrition and overall well-being.
- π« The Lebrands have rules about their children's sleepovers, prioritizing safety and setting boundaries to protect their kids.
- π They share their experience of waiting until marriage for sexual intimacy, highlighting the importance of boundaries and mutual agreement.
- π€ The couple emphasizes the importance of teamwork and agreement in parenting, suggesting couples discuss these issues before having children.
- β They express occasional regret about putting their children on the internet, but also see the positive aspects of sharing family life for future memories.
- π They address hypothetical situations, like infidelity, and the importance of communication andι’ε (pre-emptive) discussions in a relationship.
Q & A
Why are the Cole and Sav channel potentially changing their name?
-They are considering changing the channel name to 'The Cole Ins Channel' because they initially planned on making a family video but found it too challenging with four kids and decided to focus on content that might not always include the children.
What was the format of the game they played involving questions from their Instagram audience?
-The game involved 14 questions, with each of them, Cole and Savannah, answering seven questions. They pulled a number from a hat to select the question they had to answer honestly or choose not to answer and lose a point.
How does Cole perceive the impact of his 'stupidity' on his children?
-Cole acknowledges that people might perceive him as goofy and silly, but he sees this as a positive influence on his children, who have become outgoing, funny, and have many friends.
What is the stance on adopting Everly?
-The decision to adopt Everly is entirely up to her. They have discussed it with her, explaining what it entails and that she can keep her father's last name in addition to taking on the family name.
How do they maintain their health and wellness?
-They credit their health to a morning routine involving AG1, a nutritional supplement that they have been using for the past three months, which has improved their foundational nutrition and overall well-being.
What is their policy on sleepovers for their children?
-They do not allow their children to have sleepovers at other people's houses due to safety concerns and to maintain control over their children's environment. However, they do allow sleepovers at their own house with selected friends from good families.
How did they manage to wait until marriage to be intimate?
-They made a mutual decision early in their dating phase to wait until marriage. It was challenging, but they set boundaries and focused on their relationship, finding it more rewarding in the long run.
How do they handle disagreements in parenting?
-They find it important to discuss and come to conclusions on parenting styles before having children. They aim to meet in the middle on disagreements and always strive to present a united front as a team in raising their children.
Do they have any regrets about putting their children on the internet?
-While there are times they wonder about the implications, they generally find the experience positive as it allows their children to review their childhood and provides them with quality family time. They are, however, conscious of the potential for negative comments and prepare their children accordingly.
How do they instill confidence in their children regarding mean comments on the internet?
-They ensure their children do not have access to social media and prepare them for the possibility of encountering negative comments in the future. They teach their children to disregard such comments and value the opinions of close friends and family.
How has YouTube and social media influenced their family dynamics?
-YouTube has provided them with the opportunity to spend more quality time together as a family. They are aware of the potential negatives, such as mean comments, but they believe the positive experiences and opportunities outweigh these downsides.
Do Posie and Zealand understand that Everly is their half-sister?
-They are aware that Everly has another dad, but the concept of being a 'half-sister' is not something that has been explained to them in detail due to their young age. It's something that will be addressed when they are old enough to understand.
What is something the couple wishes they had known before getting married?
-They wish they had known more about each other's family traditions and expectations, especially regarding holidays, to avoid potential conflicts and to ensure they could maintain their preferred family practices.
Outlines
π Introduction to the Family Channel and Q&A Game
The video begins with a casual introduction, mentioning a possible channel name change and acknowledging the challenges of creating content with four kids. The family decides to make a family video and incorporates a Q&A game where they answer the hardest questions from their Instagram audience. The game involves pulling numbers from a hat to select questions, with a point system that determines the winner and loser, who faces a 'terrible consequence.'
π Discussing Family Dynamics and Health Sponsorship
The family candidly discusses the impact of the father's personality on the kids, the possibility of adopting Everly, and their approach to maintaining a healthy lifestyle with a sponsorship from ag1, which has become part of their morning routine. They emphasize the importance of prioritizing family and faith and share their personal experiences with toxic relationships and setting boundaries.
π€ Navigating Parenting Decisions and Sleepovers
The parents talk about their decision-making process regarding their children's friendships and sleepovers, emphasizing the importance of setting and maintaining rules for the safety and well-being of their kids. They share their experiences with waiting until marriage and how they handle disagreements in parenting, stressing the importance of communication and teamwork in their marriage.
π Compromises During the Holidays and Online Presence
The family discusses how they manage gift-giving during Christmas, finding a middle ground that satisfies both parents' preferences. They also address the topic of putting their children on the internet, sharing their occasional regrets and the benefits of creating a digital family archive. The parents emphasize their commitment to their family's online presence and their approach to dealing with negative comments.
π± Social Media Impact and Preparing Children for Online Environments
The parents reflect on the impact of YouTube on their family life, the quality time they get to spend with their kids, and the opportunities they've received. They discuss how they prepare their children for the potential negative aspects of social media, instilling confidence in them to handle mean comments, and the importance of focusing on the opinions of close friends and family rather than anonymous online critics.
π¨βπ©βπ§βπ¦ Family Structure and Dealing with Infidelity
The video script touches on how the family handles the knowledge of Everly being a half-sister to her siblings and the parents' views on what they would do if faced with infidelity in their marriage. They emphasize the importance of discussing family traditions and holiday plans before getting married to avoid conflicts later on.
Mindmap
Keywords
π‘Family Channel
π‘Sleepovers
π‘Social Media
π‘Influencer
π‘Parenting
π‘Toxic Behavior
π‘Adoption
π‘Confidence
π‘Marriage
π‘Family Traditions
π‘Content Creation
Highlights
The Lebrand family is considering changing their channel name to 'The Coins Channel'.
They plan to make family videos but find it challenging with four kids.
The couple engages in a Q&A game using questions from their Instagram audience.
Cole's perceived 'stupidity' is seen as a positive influence, making their kids outgoing and funny.
The couple discusses the possibility of adopting their daughter Everly, leaving the decision entirely up to her.
AG1 is mentioned as a part of their morning routine, improving their nutrition and overall health.
The couple does not allow their children to have sleepovers at other houses for safety and consistency reasons.
They shared how they waited until marriage and the importance of setting boundaries in a relationship.
Disagreements in parenting are addressed by finding common ground and being a team.
The couple occasionally regrets putting their children on the internet due to potential negative comments.
They discuss the importance of instilling confidence in children to handle mean comments on social media.
The impact of YouTube on their children includes more quality time with parents and unique opportunities.
The couple is open about discussing the negative aspects of social media with their children.
They explain to their children that only the opinions of close friends and family matter.
The couple has not yet discussed the concept of 'half-sibling' with their younger children.
They emphasize the importance of discussing family traditions and holiday plans before getting married.
The family's experience with social media has been largely positive, outweighing the negative comments.
Transcripts
okay do you know what we're doing no no
idea welcome back everybody to the
lebrand Family Channel or possibly the
Cole and Sav Channel because we're
probably changing it to the co ins
Channel probably um because we planned
on making a family video and with four
kids it is just too tough for us yeah
which is totally fine but you
know that's just life with four kids
sometimes we'll throw kids stuff in here
though yeah maybe uh I think I have us
decorating our Christmas tree actually
oh yeah maybe I'll put us decorating our
Christmas tree
I asked you guys on Instagram Savannah
literally never has any idea what we're
doing when we're itun the camera
on it's super genuine though I don't
even see his Instagram stories half the
time he's like did you see my Instagram
stories no okay good sometimes I
literally post Instagram stories just
for Savannah to see them and like 24
hours go by and she never even
saw oh it's gone now okay so I asked
Instagram to ask me the hardest
questions that they could ask us okay
okay the most difficult questions so
we're going to turn this into a game
okay okay so I picked out 14 of what I
thought were the toughest or most
difficult or just fun questions that
people might want to hear that we have
never answered before okay kind of
questions cool um I like it I put them
in a folder and they're in the folder 1
through 14 okay so you will answer seven
I will answer seven you don't have to
answer it you're going to pull the
number out of the Hat see we have a cool
fun cowboy hat here you pull the number
out whatever number you get you have to
read the question and you can either
answer the question uh as honestly as
you can and get the point or you can say
nope I'm not going to answer or touch on
that question and you lose a point okay
okay or you don't get the point Whoever
has the most points by the end of the
video is a winner whoever doesn't have
the most points at the end of the video
is the loser it has to suffer the
world's most terrible consequence on
planet
Earth deal fine okay cool what number
did you get 14 number 14 what are the
chances that you get the very last one
okay so you just scroll to the very end
of that folder it's like the easiest one
I'll answer this one I guess does Cole's
stupidity have an impact on the
kids this question was actually has a
lot I'm guess I'm guessing
like because you're not stupid he's
actually a lot smarter than I am how
kind of you say yeah you are you're
really smart but you just come off as
very goofy and silly so people
that that maybe that was people being
mean but in my opinion I take that as
they're saying you're like silly goofy
so yes I would say it totally rubs off
on the kids cuz all of our kids are
outgoing funny silly goofy have lots of
friends they're all L like like you see
that's my lovely wife she somehow turned
a question that was probably meant for
harm yeah to come across as sweet but I
don't look at it as get this guy that's
a good one number one number one are you
kidding me you got one and I got 14 what
are the chances of of that what are the
chances I guess one and 14 one and 14
those are your chances okay this one
this one's this one was asked a lot I'm
sure um will you ever adopt Everly which
is very much more serious than the last
question yeah
um obviously that is entirely up to her
yeah that is entirely up to Everly we've
had we' told her that and we've talked
to her about it and we've told
her what that
entails and how we can still keep her
dad's last name um but she would just
have her dad's last name as well as
lebrand cuz right now she has her dad's
last name and my maiden name yeah um so
basically it just be taking my maiden
name
off oh that was weird look at this
random question I just found huh it's
it's asking us it's asking us how we've
been staying so healthy oh well I'm glad
you asked we should let them know so
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today's
video yeah we just told her when she's
ready if she wants to that CO's always
willing to so she knows that I'm willing
to and uh if she never decides to that
doesn't change anything uh whether she
is yep my adopted kid or biological or
non whatever it is basically it would
Pap yeah that's the only difference that
it'll make um so if that's something
that she ever wants to do then I would
love to do that if it's something that
she never wants to do then I won't love
her any differently for not doing it so
um and and in reality I think it's less
about maybe me and her and more about
her just having this the same last name
because obviously as you go through
school or a lot of time like if we're
flying in the airport she's on like a
different ticket and they always kind of
bring that up and so there's situations
like that I think as she gets older she
just might want the same lebrand last
name to um just have the same last name
as your siblings and and that kind of
thing and less about um
our yeah relationship individually right
yep um so it's complicated but it's also
simple at the same time totally do I get
the point yes okay good job CU you kind
answer some of that too but maybe I get
like five no no no that that was still
my question okay there you go ready 12
how do you know when it's time to cut a
friend or significant other off because
of toxic Behavior so this this wasn't
personal but I just felt like it was
like something that we have been through
in our lives yeah a few times just
obviously you come across toxic people
and I'm interested to hear you answer
this one cuz yeah I don't think I've
ever officially like cut a friend off
yeah you know yeah like that's just not
in my there's yeah there's been
boundaries where I don't hang out with
the friend as much anymore
or stuff like that but there's never
been a time like even those friends that
we don't I don't hang out with them as
much anymore we still talk occasionally
so that I've never like cut a friend off
having like a priorities especially as
you get older and more busy with wife
and kids what we've done well with is
like okay what are our priorities God
and we actually just talk about this
like making sure like we're showing up
the church we're prioritizing that maybe
over like kids activities and there's so
many things whether it's whatever it is
relationship friendship activity life
yeah that as you have those priorities
it makes it easier to say no like hey I
just I can't squeeze that in I can't do
that because I have to
prioritize my marriage or my
relationship with one of my kids or
whatever it is yeah yeah but it's also
very personal and difficult and then
relationship wise I think that's much
harder to
do I personally just because I feel like
lots of girls struggle with toxic
relationships and I
think I'm no expert on this but I think
that it totally has to be you wanting to
get out of that relationship and you
knowing your worth and that you're
better than that and you need to realize
that for me it was a total God moment
for others it could be something of just
I don't deserve that I'm walking away
you know depends on the person but it
definitely has to be you because I had
all my friends my parents and people
saying you could do better you deserve
better and I never listened to anybody
so it was all just God's timing and me
actually believing that I could do
better mhm so that's my take on that
good answer get the point okay W so far
we haven't dodged any questions which
I'm pretty
proud of the song nine okay I like that
do sleep over scare you as a survivor of
I can't bring myself to let my girls go
mhm and I was kind of hoping that you'd
probably get this one butn I wish I got
this one we're both fairly passion our
kids don't have sleep I'll help you you
have to give me another five though so I
get an extra
point long answer short we our kids
don't have sleepovers at other people's
houses for for that reason um and not
even for that just for that reason not
for that
reason cuz that's a big reason yeah
there are like certain families I
probably would let my kids sleep over at
their house but I don't because it's a
fine line of if I let them do that I
have to let them do the other person's
house because then you know it's a rule
that's just nobody yeah for our yeah
we're very intentional about who our
friends are um who our close friends are
you know we'll be friends with everybody
but who our close friends are um we're
very intentional about who our kids
close friends are obviously our kids can
be friends with whoever they want but
whose house they might be going over to
over to and that stuff yeah as parents
we will say yes and no to that kind of
thing yeah um so it's just about
protecting our kids the best way that we
can and personally our kids don't have
sleepovers at other people's houses but
they have sleepovers at our house but
not they because we have control over
who can sleepover at our house if
there's kids that we know come from
great families and um are a great
influence in our kids' life yeah then
they're more than welcome to have a
sleepover at our house where we can
monitor the things that we feel need to
be monitored yeah totally and obviously
family to
family you're you have to figure that
out personally yeah so yes we're aware
of that but I do think though when you
make a rule you have to really stick
with it and you can't like let certain
things happen here or there because I
feel like that's where it gets tricky is
like she doesn't have sleepovers but she
can sleep at so and so's house but it's
like yeah then it starts getting we kind
of cut off the sleepovers a while ago
and there there have been she she did
sleepovers for like probably two years
not a lot she probably stepped over at
four people's houses in two years but um
like they were our closest friends and
then we just kind of decided nothing
happened yeah we just kind of decided
let's stop sleepovers cuz yeah it just
should be a rule that we just have for
all of our kids so I feel like with your
first kid you kind of learn and there's
a lot of gray area things like you can
be like you saying I'm going to justify
this one time and like you almost can't
do that so we've said no in some like
hard situations where like she was just
at this dance party thing that all the
girls are sleeping over at and we let
her stay until about midnight and then
it was time to pick her up even though
it would have been so much easier at
midnight just to let her sleep over
we're exhausted we don't want to go back
out but we have this rule yeah even
though there's no not even other boys
there there's no boys even there it's
just a girl thing yeah um it's just our
rule so if like knows that then it's
just yeah yeah yeah you guys get it just
and we still haven't figured this out we
have not figured out parenting we have
not figured out family we have not
figured out marriage this is just what
we're learning as and every kind of gets
her sleepover fixed cuz she'll sleep at
Gigi's probably like once a month so and
again she can s friend sleep over at our
house she wants and she does quite often
okay what did you get okay number seven
ooh lucky number seven right in the
middle how did you wait until marriage
feel like we've talked about this
question a good bit Yeah but maybe not
yeah um I kind of forget yeah how did we
it was very hard yeah but yeah together
Savannah and I waited we made the we
made the decision when we first started
dating that we were going to we we got
married very fast yeah yeah everyone
jokes like if you're a Christian and
you're waiting until married still you
get married fast so even a year of
waiting is was difficult you know when
you love someone so much and so yeah you
just make it happen yeah yeah it wasn't
easy it's the easiest way to put it and
you just got to set boundaries where you
feel are very important yeah know your
weak spots put boundaries in those
places who do you think it was easier
for I I think it was easier for you yeah
I would probably say that right yeah cuz
you you've told me that before and I
know it was very difficult for me yeah I
mean it was it was difficult for me too
but I think it was easier for me
because I knew what it was like not
waiting in relationships and so I was
like well I want to figure out what it
will be like waiting and it was just so
much greater MH so that was really cool
for me and I think I it was easier for
me not to do that
because I had already done it in the
past great answer yeah great answer
honey number four Lucky Number Four how
do you handle disagreements around the
way you raise your
kids great question yeah parenting is
like the season of life that we're in
right now um and we fortunately don't
disagree a lot I think that a very
important thing around getting married
and again we are no marriage experts but
finding someone that even if you don't
have kids yet talk about these things
before you talk about how are you going
to discipline your kids you know are you
going to do this are you going to do
this what are you going to do in these
situations because I we know so many
people not that
like we did that before because we it
just kind of happened because of Everly
so I feel like we're giving that advice
because we we've had Everly and we kind
of figured that out before I have young
siblings who are all dating I tell them
the exact same thing but I think it
would be really awesome for couples to
talk about that kind of stuff before so
then when you get into the parent life
it's the number one thing that married
couples argue about is their kids and
just things that happen with kids
parenting is extremely different and
marriage can be extremely difficult at
times so and you're not always going to
agree on everything there's going to be
things where you have to compromise or
you were raised a certain way where your
parents did things and you either liked
it or you didn't and your spouse a
totally different set of parents with a
totally different set of so the more
that you can talk about and come to
conclusions on before you get there I
think the better and it's it's really
attractive it was really attractive for
me to see how savan parented Everly and
I agreed with most of how she was
already doing it so I think as you're
dating and you're asking these questions
I personally found it really attractive
and I would encourage you to find it
attractive to as someone is naturally
saying things that you agree with in
parenting that should check your boxes
yeah if there's already a lot of like oh
I don't know about that one oh you're
going to do that I don't and there's
already a lot of that before the kids
are even there yeah all that being said
there there has been several times and
there will continue to be times where
things happen that we don't see eye to
eye on um like like in the I'll give
just like a really small example
Christmas season right Christmas season
I already know what he's going to talk
about gift giving it's happening right
now Savannah loves gift giving that's
one of her love languages she's so good
at it and uh I love giving gifts in my
opinion maybe too much so mhm right um
so I am always I go a little overboard
on do you guys but it's like the one
time I truly gobe more so we're trying
to find compromises in the middle I'm
like okay I just love Christmas so much
she doesn't 100% agree on how I would
have Christmas morning be and I don't
necessarily 100% agree with how she
would so how can we meet in the middle
to where as a family it is a happy but
I've gotten better yes and I've gotten
better yes you have so Cole would say
the kids can each get eight eight
presents for Christmas and he'd say but
I think we should make them give away
half of those and in my head I'm like
okay I don't think this is the time to
give away the presents I think sure
let's go through their playroom let's
donate let's go buy presents let's go by
presents this is one example of yes in
marriage and parenting your kids there's
going to be a lot of ways again how you
were raised it's how your spouse was and
you got to find a common manal ground
every night we pray and one one of the
things in our prayer is that we would be
a team yeah we have to be a team it
cannot be Savannah raising the kids how
she wants to and I raise the kids how I
want to and hope that they turn out okay
because our marriage will not and
therefore our kids will be suffering
because of yeah um we got to be a team
yeah and that is a lot easier said than
done but I think we're doing a pretty
good job yeah we are we're into our
seventh year of marriage and this is
whenever most divorces happen I think
that's crazy and we are still madly in
love should we give them an example of
how madly in love we are no no no is it
my turn actually it's one of the
questions so maybe we'll okay I'm going
I think one of the questions is show
everybody how mad in love you are I hope
you one 13 oh that is the one look if
Pinocchio said my nose is going to grow
now would it grow I've been stuck on
this for too long
no hate genuinely curious do you ever
regret putting your children on the
internet oh that's a good one that's a
great one um
sometimes I wonder if we're going to go
over on this should I change the SD card
before no we could be quick okay my SD
card Des desing so I'll keep this fairly
quick I would I would say sometimes yeah
for sure I would say there's lots of
times and most of the time where I think
it's so much fun the kids love it they
like looking back on old videos it's
like having Home Videos it's super cute
like we'll put on old videos for the
kids all the time and they just think
it's like the best thing ever so there's
times where I'm like okay that's all
worth it and then there's times where
I'm will post something and you bunch of
mean comments and I don't ever read them
but it's just one of those things where
it's like uh I hope my kids never read
that one day well that's why we are
doing a lot less and less ofen with the
kids but not entirely and whenever we
started filming as a family seven eight
years ago people were making Instagram
accounts of their dogs people were
making Instagram accounts of their new
favorite pair of shoes it was just like
the thing to do of just like um
including everything and everybody and
our family was our everything so it just
like made sense and like if you look
back on any of my videos I've ever made
I've never been one to be like a solo
guy in front of the camera and same with
Savannah like some influencers are great
about like just like it being all them
but I I don't want to come across like
super humble but I just really like love
myself but I love my wife and I love my
kids and I love my family that's what I
wanted people to see is that I love
Jesus I love my wife I love my kids and
I I just wanted to share that personally
all of me is just a mom so I feel like I
would just be lying completely if my if
it was just me yeah talking or just me
doing stuff like I'm just mhm I love
being a mom that's what we wanted to
embody stff hopefully a loving healthy
marriage and loving healthy parents with
their kids yeah and I think that most
people get that uh and some people won't
and that's okay a lot of people just
need to stop watching our videos I'm so
I get confused by that yeah just don't
watch that's all but they're watching
they are they're watching really weird
and that's and that's the good part is
as they always watch but thank
you um we could obviously go a lot
longer on that one but that's a very
short-winded answer okay sorry guys I
had to change the SD card um I think
you're up five things you guys buttheads
about when it comes to Parenting so this
was kind of the that was kind of the
other one but you can at least like
maybe say honestly I would say the
Christmas thing is pretty big yeah cuz
around Christmas time it's always like a
conversation that we this is seven or
eight Christmas is in a row now trying
to think of what else um and and this
usually happens with birthdays too I
would say probably every dance stuff the
dance clothes that she wears uh no I
think we we've answered all the
questions you're not putting them back
in the head are you no your marriage is
solid but what would you do if you found
out one of you was cheating that's scary
yeah I thought that was going I was like
oh my gosh um my is my question you got
to stop answering my questions I would
just be I mean IID yeah I mean what do
you want today like yeah I mean the
obvious answers confus shock I think
they want to know would you would you
immediately want to get a divorce or
would you try to work it out I think
that we we've actually talked about this
like that's probably what I assume
people want to know I think that as
awful as it is I think both of us would
try to work it out just cuz I not that
they we're saying I'm not justifying
this do it I'm not just I'm not giving
you the pass yeah number 11 how do you
instill confidence in your children when
they could read mean judgment comments
I'll say first off we need to clarify
that yeah first off they don't read mean
comments but I'm sure that because none
of them have access to social media no
social media no cell phones we haven't
had to deal with that yet even though
I'm sure when she's a teenager and maybe
one day when we decide that she can have
her own social media it's going to
happen and I My Hope Is that we've
instilled enough confidence in her that
when she does go to read those comments
and I'm going to prepare her for those
comments that she is able to do what
what I do and look past them and just
know that not finding you worth good or
bad yeah in the comments you can totally
a lot of people get on social media and
they're posting because they're getting
a lot of Praise so they think oh I'm the
best this I'm beautiful I'm this this
and then all a sudden if you guys know
social media people love you and people
hate you um all in the same day you know
you can do one dumb thing so like don't
let the praise get you on a high horse
and don't let the hate make you think
you're awful MH that you're true friends
you're true community and we've been
very fortunate in our life outside of
our kids' life just our life having a
great community at our church and our
friends who know us and love us despite
our success def despite our failures M
um they don't let that Define us and we
don't either
so three number three only two there's
only two left this one's funny cuz this
actually goes with that one do you feel
like YouTube has changed every and the
other kids in any ways good or bad a
good thing is they get to spend so much
time with their Mom and Dad yeah yeah
we've got to spend so much quality time
with our kids we've gotten incredible
opportunities that we wouldn't have
gotten if a great perspective on this is
um at least a healthy perspective that I
like to look get it in is we have talked
with every now about silly things that
are on the internet um silly things that
people have said about our family silly
Tik toks that have maybe gone viral um
it's very easy for negative things to go
viral right that's why Paparazzi are
always posting terrible tabloids about
celebrities and this that because people
love to see and read negative things as
as bad as it is um so we tell her about
that and we remind her that negative
people feed on Nega negativity um so
even at a young age she's aware of bad
things that can and will be said yeah um
and I think that a lot of teenagers are
maybe thrown into social media at 11 12
13 14 15 whenever their parents give
them a phone and give them access to to
social media and maybe the parents
aren't even aware of it because they're
kind of older or they're not active or
whatever it is so they don't really know
how to have these conversations with
their kids So then whenever their kid
starts receiving so much negativity or
hate because that's what's going to
happen on social media they don't know
who to go to they're so blindsided
they're so confused and maybe they take
those comments seriously we I'm very
fortunate that Savannah and I have had
so much awareness around this that we
have had conversations with every
already even though she doesn't have a
phone or social media but preparing her
and we with all of our kids that
um nothing that anybody is
saying really matters that much yeah so
don't take it and it goes back to the
last thing don't let the praise boost
you up don't let the negativity these
people don't know you yeah right um I
care and I
tell and I tell Everly and even Cole if
forever in situations we should only
care what our friends and family are
thinking of us our closest friends in
our family and if we want their opinion
that's the only only people that we
should really be seeking to ask not not
social media and then you could ask a
question like why even do social media
if that's the case yeah um I think that
99% of normal happy content people in
their life don't go around um
necessarily commenting or um well yeah
it's just it's sad people leaving mean
comments it's not happy people leaving
me yeah yeah the sad the sad people the
the mean angry people they're going to
be the ones pushing their hate and out
there um but the 99% of the supporters
are just going about their happy lives
seeing your supporting your stff and
again giving our family amazing
opportunities but also the influence and
the finances that we've been able to
make through social media we don't post
we don't say all that we do but we know
that it is far worth some silly
hateful lying lying comments the people
that we've been able to help um we
wouldn't been able to help otherwise so
that goes so much farther
than yeah a couple lies yeah we we could
really like we aren't prepared for you
we could definitely prepare a lot on
this if we wanted to yeah um but to each
their own and to each family their own
but this is this is truly how we feel is
best in our family in our situation yeah
okay there's two more I'm going for 10 I
saw it ped do posie and Zealand know
that EV is their half sister I'm curious
how you
explained um they're too little to they
know that
she has another dad they know that but I
don't I think they they'd be too
confused for me to be like she's your
half sister so that's I mean it'll it'll
happen later on when they ask me the
question yeah but Everly knows but she
doesn't think anything of it it's kind
of just oh that's what it is what is
something you wish you knew before
getting married um and maybe even like
before marriage figuring out like family
stuff
like what are we going to do for
thanksgivings what are we going to do
for Christmas so then there's no like I
I think that for us it's never been an
issue cuz that's just something we
decided on really quick for others it
could be a issue of like oh but I've
always done Christmas at my moms or I've
always done Thanksgiving at my mom so
you're saying that we can't do that now
and that becomes like a big issue in
marriage or things like that so maybe
that's something to talk about before
yeah for sure family each each family
especially if you each come from
Traditions that you've done that you
really love and want to keep yeah yeah
we've been fortunate that our family
hasn't really pulled us apart per se I
fact we know a lot of families and just
yeah I think it's very normal for they
like oh come on you got to come here and
then then say no you got to go there so
then just kind of pulls apart um yeah so
that's definely a good
one
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