Answering Your Questions Weβve Been Avoiding.
Summary
TLDRIn this engaging video transcript, the Lebrand family discusses their online presence and the challenges of parenting in the digital age. They touch on the decision to potentially change their family channel's name and the difficulty of creating content with four children. The family candidly answers 14 tough questions from their Instagram followers, ranging from their approach to discipline and gift-giving to their thoughts on adopting their eldest child, Everly. They also delve into how they maintain a strong marriage, their choice to wait until marriage, and the balance they strike between sharing their children's lives online and protecting their privacy. The Lebrands emphasize the importance of teamwork in parenting, setting boundaries, and preparing their children for the potential negativity of social media. They provide insight into their family dynamics, including how they handle disagreements and their decision to limit their children's exposure to sleepovers. This summary offers a glimpse into the Lebrand family's values, their commitment to their children's well-being, and the authenticity they strive to maintain in their online community.
Takeaways
- π₯ The Lebrand family is considering changing their channel name to 'Cole and Sav Channel', reflecting their focus on family content.
- π¨βπ©βπ§βπ¦ They acknowledge the challenges of managing content creation with four kids and the impact it has on their channel's direction.
- π The family enjoys creating content around holidays, like decorating their Christmas tree, which they find to be a fun and genuine activity to share.
- π± They admit that not all content is perfectly planned; Savannah often does not know what they are filming, adding an element of authenticity to their videos.
- π€ The couple engages with their audience by answering difficult questions through a game, showing their willingness to be open and vulnerable.
- π§ They discuss the possibility of adopting their daughter Everly, emphasizing that the decision is entirely up to her.
- πΉ The family promotes a health supplement, AG1, which they claim has improved their nutrition and overall well-being.
- π« The Lebrands have rules about their children's sleepovers, prioritizing safety and setting boundaries to protect their kids.
- π They share their experience of waiting until marriage for sexual intimacy, highlighting the importance of boundaries and mutual agreement.
- π€ The couple emphasizes the importance of teamwork and agreement in parenting, suggesting couples discuss these issues before having children.
- β They express occasional regret about putting their children on the internet, but also see the positive aspects of sharing family life for future memories.
- π They address hypothetical situations, like infidelity, and the importance of communication andι’ε (pre-emptive) discussions in a relationship.
Q & A
Why are the Cole and Sav channel potentially changing their name?
-They are considering changing the channel name to 'The Cole Ins Channel' because they initially planned on making a family video but found it too challenging with four kids and decided to focus on content that might not always include the children.
What was the format of the game they played involving questions from their Instagram audience?
-The game involved 14 questions, with each of them, Cole and Savannah, answering seven questions. They pulled a number from a hat to select the question they had to answer honestly or choose not to answer and lose a point.
How does Cole perceive the impact of his 'stupidity' on his children?
-Cole acknowledges that people might perceive him as goofy and silly, but he sees this as a positive influence on his children, who have become outgoing, funny, and have many friends.
What is the stance on adopting Everly?
-The decision to adopt Everly is entirely up to her. They have discussed it with her, explaining what it entails and that she can keep her father's last name in addition to taking on the family name.
How do they maintain their health and wellness?
-They credit their health to a morning routine involving AG1, a nutritional supplement that they have been using for the past three months, which has improved their foundational nutrition and overall well-being.
What is their policy on sleepovers for their children?
-They do not allow their children to have sleepovers at other people's houses due to safety concerns and to maintain control over their children's environment. However, they do allow sleepovers at their own house with selected friends from good families.
How did they manage to wait until marriage to be intimate?
-They made a mutual decision early in their dating phase to wait until marriage. It was challenging, but they set boundaries and focused on their relationship, finding it more rewarding in the long run.
How do they handle disagreements in parenting?
-They find it important to discuss and come to conclusions on parenting styles before having children. They aim to meet in the middle on disagreements and always strive to present a united front as a team in raising their children.
Do they have any regrets about putting their children on the internet?
-While there are times they wonder about the implications, they generally find the experience positive as it allows their children to review their childhood and provides them with quality family time. They are, however, conscious of the potential for negative comments and prepare their children accordingly.
How do they instill confidence in their children regarding mean comments on the internet?
-They ensure their children do not have access to social media and prepare them for the possibility of encountering negative comments in the future. They teach their children to disregard such comments and value the opinions of close friends and family.
How has YouTube and social media influenced their family dynamics?
-YouTube has provided them with the opportunity to spend more quality time together as a family. They are aware of the potential negatives, such as mean comments, but they believe the positive experiences and opportunities outweigh these downsides.
Do Posie and Zealand understand that Everly is their half-sister?
-They are aware that Everly has another dad, but the concept of being a 'half-sister' is not something that has been explained to them in detail due to their young age. It's something that will be addressed when they are old enough to understand.
What is something the couple wishes they had known before getting married?
-They wish they had known more about each other's family traditions and expectations, especially regarding holidays, to avoid potential conflicts and to ensure they could maintain their preferred family practices.
Outlines
π Introduction to the Family Channel and Q&A Game
The video begins with a casual introduction, mentioning a possible channel name change and acknowledging the challenges of creating content with four kids. The family decides to make a family video and incorporates a Q&A game where they answer the hardest questions from their Instagram audience. The game involves pulling numbers from a hat to select questions, with a point system that determines the winner and loser, who faces a 'terrible consequence.'
π Discussing Family Dynamics and Health Sponsorship
The family candidly discusses the impact of the father's personality on the kids, the possibility of adopting Everly, and their approach to maintaining a healthy lifestyle with a sponsorship from ag1, which has become part of their morning routine. They emphasize the importance of prioritizing family and faith and share their personal experiences with toxic relationships and setting boundaries.
π€ Navigating Parenting Decisions and Sleepovers
The parents talk about their decision-making process regarding their children's friendships and sleepovers, emphasizing the importance of setting and maintaining rules for the safety and well-being of their kids. They share their experiences with waiting until marriage and how they handle disagreements in parenting, stressing the importance of communication and teamwork in their marriage.
π Compromises During the Holidays and Online Presence
The family discusses how they manage gift-giving during Christmas, finding a middle ground that satisfies both parents' preferences. They also address the topic of putting their children on the internet, sharing their occasional regrets and the benefits of creating a digital family archive. The parents emphasize their commitment to their family's online presence and their approach to dealing with negative comments.
π± Social Media Impact and Preparing Children for Online Environments
The parents reflect on the impact of YouTube on their family life, the quality time they get to spend with their kids, and the opportunities they've received. They discuss how they prepare their children for the potential negative aspects of social media, instilling confidence in them to handle mean comments, and the importance of focusing on the opinions of close friends and family rather than anonymous online critics.
π¨βπ©βπ§βπ¦ Family Structure and Dealing with Infidelity
The video script touches on how the family handles the knowledge of Everly being a half-sister to her siblings and the parents' views on what they would do if faced with infidelity in their marriage. They emphasize the importance of discussing family traditions and holiday plans before getting married to avoid conflicts later on.
Mindmap
Keywords
π‘Family Channel
π‘Sleepovers
π‘Social Media
π‘Influencer
π‘Parenting
π‘Toxic Behavior
π‘Adoption
π‘Confidence
π‘Marriage
π‘Family Traditions
π‘Content Creation
Highlights
The Lebrand family is considering changing their channel name to 'The Coins Channel'.
They plan to make family videos but find it challenging with four kids.
The couple engages in a Q&A game using questions from their Instagram audience.
Cole's perceived 'stupidity' is seen as a positive influence, making their kids outgoing and funny.
The couple discusses the possibility of adopting their daughter Everly, leaving the decision entirely up to her.
AG1 is mentioned as a part of their morning routine, improving their nutrition and overall health.
The couple does not allow their children to have sleepovers at other houses for safety and consistency reasons.
They shared how they waited until marriage and the importance of setting boundaries in a relationship.
Disagreements in parenting are addressed by finding common ground and being a team.
The couple occasionally regrets putting their children on the internet due to potential negative comments.
They discuss the importance of instilling confidence in children to handle mean comments on social media.
The impact of YouTube on their children includes more quality time with parents and unique opportunities.
The couple is open about discussing the negative aspects of social media with their children.
They explain to their children that only the opinions of close friends and family matter.
The couple has not yet discussed the concept of 'half-sibling' with their younger children.
They emphasize the importance of discussing family traditions and holiday plans before getting married.
The family's experience with social media has been largely positive, outweighing the negative comments.
Transcripts
okay do you know what we're doing no no
idea welcome back everybody to the
lebrand Family Channel or possibly the
Cole and Sav Channel because we're
probably changing it to the co ins
Channel probably um because we planned
on making a family video and with four
kids it is just too tough for us yeah
which is totally fine but you
know that's just life with four kids
sometimes we'll throw kids stuff in here
though yeah maybe uh I think I have us
decorating our Christmas tree actually
oh yeah maybe I'll put us decorating our
Christmas tree
I asked you guys on Instagram Savannah
literally never has any idea what we're
doing when we're itun the camera
on it's super genuine though I don't
even see his Instagram stories half the
time he's like did you see my Instagram
stories no okay good sometimes I
literally post Instagram stories just
for Savannah to see them and like 24
hours go by and she never even
saw oh it's gone now okay so I asked
Instagram to ask me the hardest
questions that they could ask us okay
okay the most difficult questions so
we're going to turn this into a game
okay okay so I picked out 14 of what I
thought were the toughest or most
difficult or just fun questions that
people might want to hear that we have
never answered before okay kind of
questions cool um I like it I put them
in a folder and they're in the folder 1
through 14 okay so you will answer seven
I will answer seven you don't have to
answer it you're going to pull the
number out of the Hat see we have a cool
fun cowboy hat here you pull the number
out whatever number you get you have to
read the question and you can either
answer the question uh as honestly as
you can and get the point or you can say
nope I'm not going to answer or touch on
that question and you lose a point okay
okay or you don't get the point Whoever
has the most points by the end of the
video is a winner whoever doesn't have
the most points at the end of the video
is the loser it has to suffer the
world's most terrible consequence on
planet
Earth deal fine okay cool what number
did you get 14 number 14 what are the
chances that you get the very last one
okay so you just scroll to the very end
of that folder it's like the easiest one
I'll answer this one I guess does Cole's
stupidity have an impact on the
kids this question was actually has a
lot I'm guess I'm guessing
like because you're not stupid he's
actually a lot smarter than I am how
kind of you say yeah you are you're
really smart but you just come off as
very goofy and silly so people
that that maybe that was people being
mean but in my opinion I take that as
they're saying you're like silly goofy
so yes I would say it totally rubs off
on the kids cuz all of our kids are
outgoing funny silly goofy have lots of
friends they're all L like like you see
that's my lovely wife she somehow turned
a question that was probably meant for
harm yeah to come across as sweet but I
don't look at it as get this guy that's
a good one number one number one are you
kidding me you got one and I got 14 what
are the chances of of that what are the
chances I guess one and 14 one and 14
those are your chances okay this one
this one's this one was asked a lot I'm
sure um will you ever adopt Everly which
is very much more serious than the last
question yeah
um obviously that is entirely up to her
yeah that is entirely up to Everly we've
had we' told her that and we've talked
to her about it and we've told
her what that
entails and how we can still keep her
dad's last name um but she would just
have her dad's last name as well as
lebrand cuz right now she has her dad's
last name and my maiden name yeah um so
basically it just be taking my maiden
name
off oh that was weird look at this
random question I just found huh it's
it's asking us it's asking us how we've
been staying so healthy oh well I'm glad
you asked we should let them know so
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today's
video yeah we just told her when she's
ready if she wants to that CO's always
willing to so she knows that I'm willing
to and uh if she never decides to that
doesn't change anything uh whether she
is yep my adopted kid or biological or
non whatever it is basically it would
Pap yeah that's the only difference that
it'll make um so if that's something
that she ever wants to do then I would
love to do that if it's something that
she never wants to do then I won't love
her any differently for not doing it so
um and and in reality I think it's less
about maybe me and her and more about
her just having this the same last name
because obviously as you go through
school or a lot of time like if we're
flying in the airport she's on like a
different ticket and they always kind of
bring that up and so there's situations
like that I think as she gets older she
just might want the same lebrand last
name to um just have the same last name
as your siblings and and that kind of
thing and less about um
our yeah relationship individually right
yep um so it's complicated but it's also
simple at the same time totally do I get
the point yes okay good job CU you kind
answer some of that too but maybe I get
like five no no no that that was still
my question okay there you go ready 12
how do you know when it's time to cut a
friend or significant other off because
of toxic Behavior so this this wasn't
personal but I just felt like it was
like something that we have been through
in our lives yeah a few times just
obviously you come across toxic people
and I'm interested to hear you answer
this one cuz yeah I don't think I've
ever officially like cut a friend off
yeah you know yeah like that's just not
in my there's yeah there's been
boundaries where I don't hang out with
the friend as much anymore
or stuff like that but there's never
been a time like even those friends that
we don't I don't hang out with them as
much anymore we still talk occasionally
so that I've never like cut a friend off
having like a priorities especially as
you get older and more busy with wife
and kids what we've done well with is
like okay what are our priorities God
and we actually just talk about this
like making sure like we're showing up
the church we're prioritizing that maybe
over like kids activities and there's so
many things whether it's whatever it is
relationship friendship activity life
yeah that as you have those priorities
it makes it easier to say no like hey I
just I can't squeeze that in I can't do
that because I have to
prioritize my marriage or my
relationship with one of my kids or
whatever it is yeah yeah but it's also
very personal and difficult and then
relationship wise I think that's much
harder to
do I personally just because I feel like
lots of girls struggle with toxic
relationships and I
think I'm no expert on this but I think
that it totally has to be you wanting to
get out of that relationship and you
knowing your worth and that you're
better than that and you need to realize
that for me it was a total God moment
for others it could be something of just
I don't deserve that I'm walking away
you know depends on the person but it
definitely has to be you because I had
all my friends my parents and people
saying you could do better you deserve
better and I never listened to anybody
so it was all just God's timing and me
actually believing that I could do
better mhm so that's my take on that
good answer get the point okay W so far
we haven't dodged any questions which
I'm pretty
proud of the song nine okay I like that
do sleep over scare you as a survivor of
I can't bring myself to let my girls go
mhm and I was kind of hoping that you'd
probably get this one butn I wish I got
this one we're both fairly passion our
kids don't have sleep I'll help you you
have to give me another five though so I
get an extra
point long answer short we our kids
don't have sleepovers at other people's
houses for for that reason um and not
even for that just for that reason not
for that
reason cuz that's a big reason yeah
there are like certain families I
probably would let my kids sleep over at
their house but I don't because it's a
fine line of if I let them do that I
have to let them do the other person's
house because then you know it's a rule
that's just nobody yeah for our yeah
we're very intentional about who our
friends are um who our close friends are
you know we'll be friends with everybody
but who our close friends are um we're
very intentional about who our kids
close friends are obviously our kids can
be friends with whoever they want but
whose house they might be going over to
over to and that stuff yeah as parents
we will say yes and no to that kind of
thing yeah um so it's just about
protecting our kids the best way that we
can and personally our kids don't have
sleepovers at other people's houses but
they have sleepovers at our house but
not they because we have control over
who can sleepover at our house if
there's kids that we know come from
great families and um are a great
influence in our kids' life yeah then
they're more than welcome to have a
sleepover at our house where we can
monitor the things that we feel need to
be monitored yeah totally and obviously
family to
family you're you have to figure that
out personally yeah so yes we're aware
of that but I do think though when you
make a rule you have to really stick
with it and you can't like let certain
things happen here or there because I
feel like that's where it gets tricky is
like she doesn't have sleepovers but she
can sleep at so and so's house but it's
like yeah then it starts getting we kind
of cut off the sleepovers a while ago
and there there have been she she did
sleepovers for like probably two years
not a lot she probably stepped over at
four people's houses in two years but um
like they were our closest friends and
then we just kind of decided nothing
happened yeah we just kind of decided
let's stop sleepovers cuz yeah it just
should be a rule that we just have for
all of our kids so I feel like with your
first kid you kind of learn and there's
a lot of gray area things like you can
be like you saying I'm going to justify
this one time and like you almost can't
do that so we've said no in some like
hard situations where like she was just
at this dance party thing that all the
girls are sleeping over at and we let
her stay until about midnight and then
it was time to pick her up even though
it would have been so much easier at
midnight just to let her sleep over
we're exhausted we don't want to go back
out but we have this rule yeah even
though there's no not even other boys
there there's no boys even there it's
just a girl thing yeah um it's just our
rule so if like knows that then it's
just yeah yeah yeah you guys get it just
and we still haven't figured this out we
have not figured out parenting we have
not figured out family we have not
figured out marriage this is just what
we're learning as and every kind of gets
her sleepover fixed cuz she'll sleep at
Gigi's probably like once a month so and
again she can s friend sleep over at our
house she wants and she does quite often
okay what did you get okay number seven
ooh lucky number seven right in the
middle how did you wait until marriage
feel like we've talked about this
question a good bit Yeah but maybe not
yeah um I kind of forget yeah how did we
it was very hard yeah but yeah together
Savannah and I waited we made the we
made the decision when we first started
dating that we were going to we we got
married very fast yeah yeah everyone
jokes like if you're a Christian and
you're waiting until married still you
get married fast so even a year of
waiting is was difficult you know when
you love someone so much and so yeah you
just make it happen yeah yeah it wasn't
easy it's the easiest way to put it and
you just got to set boundaries where you
feel are very important yeah know your
weak spots put boundaries in those
places who do you think it was easier
for I I think it was easier for you yeah
I would probably say that right yeah cuz
you you've told me that before and I
know it was very difficult for me yeah I
mean it was it was difficult for me too
but I think it was easier for me
because I knew what it was like not
waiting in relationships and so I was
like well I want to figure out what it
will be like waiting and it was just so
much greater MH so that was really cool
for me and I think I it was easier for
me not to do that
because I had already done it in the
past great answer yeah great answer
honey number four Lucky Number Four how
do you handle disagreements around the
way you raise your
kids great question yeah parenting is
like the season of life that we're in
right now um and we fortunately don't
disagree a lot I think that a very
important thing around getting married
and again we are no marriage experts but
finding someone that even if you don't
have kids yet talk about these things
before you talk about how are you going
to discipline your kids you know are you
going to do this are you going to do
this what are you going to do in these
situations because I we know so many
people not that
like we did that before because we it
just kind of happened because of Everly
so I feel like we're giving that advice
because we we've had Everly and we kind
of figured that out before I have young
siblings who are all dating I tell them
the exact same thing but I think it
would be really awesome for couples to
talk about that kind of stuff before so
then when you get into the parent life
it's the number one thing that married
couples argue about is their kids and
just things that happen with kids
parenting is extremely different and