answering allll of your questions... q&a
Summary
TLDRIn this Q&A vlog, the busy mother of three candidly shares her postpartum experiences, comparing them to her previous two times and expressing that this recovery feels the most challenging yet. She discusses the possibility of a fourth child, her current favorite TV shows, and her thoughts on minimalism in baby products. The vlogger also addresses her past business endeavors, her NICU experience, and her content creation plans for the next five years. She reflects on her past YouTube content, expressing a desire for more privacy for her children, and shares her feelings about closing the chapter on pregnancy and newborns. Lastly, she explains why she has not yet shared her new baby's name, aligning with her new approach to sharing less personal information online.
Takeaways
- πΆ The vlogger is adjusting to life with a third baby and finds it to be the most challenging postpartum experience compared to her previous two.
- πΌ She is currently trying out different flavors of protein shakes from Clean Simple Eats, which is not a sponsored product.
- π€ The vlogger is unsure if she wants a fourth child, but is treating her current newborn as her last.
- π± She recommends using a baby tracker app to monitor the newborn's sleep, feeding, and diaper changes to maintain a routine and stay organized.
- π She suggests taking courses like 'Taking Care of Babies Newborn Sleep' and 'The Lactation Link Breastfeeding Course' for structured learning.
- π‘ The vlogger is considering moving to California but is still in the thought process.
- πΊ She is currently watching 'Buying Beverly Hills' on Netflix and 'Survivor', with plans to start 'Sex and the City'.
- πΆπ« She lists baby products she finds unnecessary, such as wipe warmers, diaper trash cans, and shoes for babies.
- π Regarding her clothing store, she confirms that she will not reopen it and is focusing on her family life.
- π She finds the SN (likely a type of bassinet or crib) helpful for her newborn who doesn't sleep well in a regular bassinet.
- π₯ The vlogger had a positive NICU experience due to having a private room and her baby not having any major health concerns.
- πΌ She plans to continue content creation for the next five years as long as it provides for her family and makes sense.
- π She is content with her current hair color and does not plan to go blonde again, especially not as blonde as she was before.
- π ββοΈ She does not miss sharing more of her children's lives and relationships and wishes she had shared less in the past.
- π΅ The vlogger does not have a nanny with consistent hours but has a babysitter who helps with the kids and light housekeeping.
- π« She feels obligated to keep going despite challenges because she has no other choice.
- π€° She has mixed feelings about closing the chapter on pregnancy and newborns, finding it sad to realize it might be the last time.
- π€·ββοΈ She has not shared her newborn's name and is unlikely to do so, preferring to keep more personal information private.
Q & A
What is the main topic of the vlog?
-The main topic of the vlog is a Q&A session where the vlogger discusses her life postpartum after having her third baby, her feelings about the newborn phase, and various aspects of her daily life and routines.
How does the vlogger describe her experience with her third baby compared to her previous postpartum experiences?
-The vlogger describes her experience with her third baby as the hardest adjustment, which makes sense to her because the more children one has, the harder the adjustment is expected to be.
What is the vlogger's current stance on having a fourth baby?
-The vlogger feels that her third baby might be her last, and she is treating this baby as her last. She is not considering having a fourth baby at the moment, although she is only 28 years old.
What advice does the vlogger give for first-time parents during the newborn phase?
-The vlogger suggests using a baby tracker app to keep track of the baby's sleep, diaper changes, and feeding times. She also recommends newborn sleep and breastfeeding courses for structured learning.
What are some baby products the vlogger considers unnecessary or overrated?
-The vlogger mentions that a wipe warmer and a diaper pail are unnecessary. She also believes that babies do not need shoes or socks, suggesting footed clothes instead.
What is the status of the vlogger's clothing store, Lua & Gray?
-The vlogger confirms that she does not plan to reopen Lua & Gray, her clothing store, which has been closed for about a year. She is focusing on her family and does not see herself returning to the clothing business.
How does the vlogger find the SN bassinet for her baby?
-The vlogger finds the SN bassinet helpful, especially since her baby does not like to sleep in a regular bassinet. The SN bassinet rocks and soothes the baby, which has been beneficial for her newborn.
What was the vlogger's experience like in the NICU with her newborn?
-The vlogger had a positive experience in the NICU because they had a private room, and her baby was doing well and only needed extra help due to being born early.
Does the vlogger see herself continuing content creation in the next five years?
-The vlogger expects to continue content creation for the next five years as long as it makes sense for her and she can continue to provide for her family.
What are the vlogger's thoughts on sharing her children's lives online now compared to the past?
-The vlogger wishes she had shared less of her children's lives online from the beginning. She does not miss sharing as much as she used to and values keeping her family more private now.
Why doesn't the vlogger share her new baby's name?
-The vlogger has chosen not to share her new baby's name to align with her current approach of sharing less personal information about her children online for their safety.
Outlines
π₯ Vlog Introduction and Q&A Session
The vlogger begins by greeting viewers and setting the stage for a Q&A session. She mentions her busy life, especially with the addition of her third child, and expresses her excitement to catch up with her audience. While preparing to film, she discusses the logistics of setting up her mirror and having a protein shake for breakfast, a product from 'Clean Simple Eats' which she clarifies is not sponsored. She feels her brain is scrambled but is eager to answer questions, sharing that she's currently out of her postpartum recovery phase and reflecting on the adjustment from having two to three children, which she finds harder than others might suggest.
πΆ Thoughts on Postpartum Recovery and Future Family Planning
The vlogger delves into her experiences with postpartum recovery, comparing it with her previous experiences and admitting that she feels more 'spread thin' now. She addresses the question of having a fourth child, stating that she considers her current newborn to be her last, although she is not entirely certain. She also shares tips for first-time parents to enjoy the newborn phase, recommending the use of a baby tracking app to maintain a sense of order and routine, and suggests courses for breastfeeding and newborn sleep as valuable resources.
π Personal Life and Product Recommendations
The vlogger shares her current TV interests, mentioning shows like 'Buying Beverly Hills' and 'Survivor', and her intention to watch 'Sex in the City'. She discusses minimalism in baby product choices, advising against certain items like wipe warmers and diaper trash cans, and emphasizes that babies do not need shoes or socks. She also talks about her past business, a clothing store, and confirms that she does not plan to reopen it due to her focus on her family and the challenges of balancing work with raising children.
ποΈ Experience with Baby Sleep Solutions and NICU
The vlogger discusses her experience with the SN bassinet, also known as the Snoo, which she rents and finds helpful for soothing her baby. She recommends it but advises viewers to try other options first. She also shares her baby's preference for formula over breast milk due to an apparent allergy and her positive experience in the NICU, where she had a private room and a baby who needed minimal medical intervention. She expresses her intention to continue content creation for the foreseeable future, as long as it supports her family.
π Personal Reflections and Future Outlook
The vlogger reflects on her hair color preferences, stating she is content with her current color and does not plan to go blonde again. She discusses her feelings about sharing her children's lives online, expressing no regret but acknowledging a shift in her approach to privacy. She also talks about the tasks performed by her babysitter and her reasons for not sharing her new baby's name, aligning with her desire for increased privacy. She concludes by expressing the bittersweet emotions of potentially closing the chapter on pregnancy and newborns.
π Closing Thoughts and Final Q&A
In the final paragraph, the vlogger addresses her choice not to share her new baby's name, in line with her new approach to privacy. She explains that she wishes to keep her children's legal names off the internet and may eventually share a nickname. She also briefly mentions her makeup routine and the tasks she plans to accomplish while her babysitter is present. The vlogger concludes the vlog by expressing her love for her children and her acceptance of their current 'survival mode', looking forward to her next video.
Mindmap
Keywords
π‘Postpartum
π‘Newborn Phase
π‘Baby Tracker App
π‘Breastfeeding Course
π‘Minimalist Parenting
π‘SN (Snoo)
π‘NICU (Neonatal Intensive Care Unit)
π‘Content Creation
π‘Natural Hair Color
π‘Privacy
π‘Survival Mode
Highlights
The vlogger discusses her current life with three children, feeling overwhelmed but excited to catch up with her audience.
She shares her breakfast choice of a Peaches and Cream protein shake, trying out flavors from Clean Simple Eats.
The vlogger mentions not being sponsored by Clean Simple Eats but wishes she was, as she enjoys their product.
She admits feeling scattered and disoriented, possibly due to the recent birth of her third child.
The vlogger expresses her surprise at how people find going from two to three children easy, as she finds it the hardest.
She is unsure if she will have a fourth child but is currently treating her third as her last.
The vlogger recommends using a baby tracker app to manage the newborn phase and establish a routine.
She suggests taking courses like the Newborn Sleep Course and Lactation Link for breastfeeding education.
The vlogger is considering moving to California but is still in the thought process.
She is currently watching 'Buying Beverly Hills' and 'Survivor', and plans to start 'Sex in the City'.
The vlogger lists baby products she finds unnecessary, such as wipe warmers and diaper trash cans.
She shares her thoughts on not reopening her clothing store, Lua & Gray, due to her current life situation.
The vlogger discusses the adjustment from two to three children and her experience with her newborn in the NICU.
She recommends the SN bassinet, also known as the Snoo, for helping soothe and manage her baby's sleep.
The vlogger shares her positive NICU experience due to having a private room and her baby's good health.
She plans to continue content creation for the next five years as long as it makes sense for her family.
The vlogger is content with her current hair color and has no plans to go blonde again.
She expresses no regrets about sharing less about her children's lives and relationships.
The vlogger discusses the tasks her babysitter performs and clarifies the difference between a babysitter and a nanny.
She talks about coping with feeling overwhelmed by simply having no choice but to keep going.
The vlogger finds it interesting and somewhat sad to close the chapter on pregnancy and newborns.
She has not shared her new baby's name and does not plan to, in line with her decision to share less about her children.
Transcripts
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hello guys and welcome to today's Vlog
it's just going to be a Q&A today
because life has been crazy it's been so
busy especially since having like a
third baby and everything I literally
feel like I'm just spread so thin so I'm
excited to do a little Vlog and Q&A and
just like catch up with you guys and I'm
going to get ready while I do this
trying to figure out where I should put
my mirror if I want to like actually set
it here or if I want to hold it okay I
guess put it right there also have my
protein shake for
breakfast this is Peaches and Cream I'm
trying out a couple different flavors
usually I like vegan protein powder but
I've been trying out clean simple eats
this is not sponsored by them I wish it
was cuz I feel like they sponsor all of
my friends but I got a couple of their
little like individual protein powder
packs to try out so I've been trying out
some of their flavors today we have
peaches and cream pretty yummy but we're
going to go ahead and start with the
questions I literally feel like my brain
is like scrambled so hopefully I can
pull it together to film this today I
didn't even have to get up with the baby
last night she only woke up once which
is amazing and Parker got up with her
and gave her a bottle so it should feel
rejuvenated but I do not so anyways
first question how are you feeling
postpartum the third time and how does
it compare to the other two times so
this has definitely been I feel like the
hardest adjustment which makes sense
obviously because the more kids you have
like it makes sense that it's going to
be harder even though a lot of people
say going from 2 to three is like very
easy I don't know why they say that I
really do not know I wouldn't say this
is actually my hardest actually I don't
know if I would say this is my hardest
like postpartum recovery I feel like I'm
like so out of that now because it's
been a while I don't even know how many
weeks old a baby is now maybe like 10
like I have no idea because time is just
going by so fast and I cannot keep up
with literally anything I feel spread
very thin that's how I will answer that
question next question though is would
you ever consider having a fourth baby
and I feel like this is my last baby I'm
treating this like it's my last baby do
I feel like I need to decide now no
because I'm only 28 and I literally have
a newborn it's very easy for me to not
want to think about like getting
pregnant again do I think I will have a
fourth baby no but am I 100% sure also
know tips for enjoying the newborn phase
of the first timer when everything will
feel like a lot I feel like one of my
biggest things that was most helpful for
me is tracking what my baby does on an
app I feel like some people would maybe
like hate doing this and it would
overwhelm them but I feel overwhelmed if
I don't do it so I just use the baby
Tracker app and you can track like their
sleep their diapers you're pumping you
can basically track like everything so I
like to track when my baby is sleeping
and awake and when my baby's eating
because I usually try to feed them like
every 3 hours that's like what you're
supposed to do with newborn like 3 hours
or more but I just feel like sometimes
it feels too chaotic and I feel like I
don't know what's going on if I can't
look at the app and be like wait how
long have they been awake wait how long
ago did I feed them obviously you can
like look at the clock and be like he
I'm feeding my baby at one but it's just
too hard to like keep track of that
every single time so using an app to
just like keep track of when my baby
sleeps and when my baby's awake
especially cuz I do like to have my
babies on a routine not necessarily from
like the very first day but I do try to
follow and eat awake sleep schedule
pretty early on just like very Loosely
and then I try and follow it like a
little bit closer as they get bigger I
feel like when I don't track what my
baby's doing I literally just feel like
everything is so chaotic and I feel like
I don't know what's going on at all like
especially with more than one baby I
know this question is about like your
first baby but I even did this with my
first baby too and I feel like it was
super helpful literally takes 2 seconds
you just like click the button when they
fall asleep and then click the button
when they wake up and then also click
like when they eat I used to time all of
my feedings and stuff when I first had a
baby and it was like first breastfeeding
and figuring it out and I don't do that
now and I don't think I did that with my
second baby either just because I was
like more comfortable with what I was
doing and I didn't feel like I needed to
yeah I feel like that is something
that's really helpful for me and it
helped me just like feel more organized
basically I also recommend the taking
care of babies newborn sleep course and
the lactation link breastfeeding course
if you want to breastfeed I love doing
courses because everything's just like
in one spot and it's really easy for me
to just like sit and learn and like
digest everything you can find a lot of
info about those things online for free
but I would rather just pay like I don't
even know how much they are but pay like
a 100 bucks to just have everything all
together and be able to like watch it
all together instead of having to spend
a lot of time like researching and kind
of like putting things together on my
own yeah I feel like those are my
biggest tips for like newborn life still
thinking about moving to C yes still
thinking about it literally every day
what shows SL mov are you into right now
I've been watching buying bever Hills is
that what it's called yes on Netflix I
think buying London just came out I
haven't started that one yet but I've
been watching buying Beverly Hills and
then I've also been watching Survivor
that's what I am currently watching I
also want to start watching Sex in the
City so I think I'm going to start that
soon cuz I'm pretty sure I'm almost done
with buying Beverly Hills I'm like part
of the way through the second season so
okay overrated SL unnecessary baby
products pregnant and trying to be
minimal in the early months first one
that I'm thinking of is a WIP warmer I'm
sure that would be nice to have but
especially when your baby is like really
tiny you kind of want the cold wipes to
like wake them up when you're changing
their diaper if you're trying to like
feed them and stuff because they're just
so sleepy and sometimes they're like too
sleepy that you can't get them to eat so
I feel like a wipe warmer kind of would
defeat the purpose of like having the
cold wipe help to wake your baby up
trying to think of what else it's like
very very popular I'm going to look up
most popular baby products oh something
else that I also don't have is a diaper
trash I can't remember if we had one
when we first had Cove I feel like maybe
we did but we literally just like did
not use it at all so I feel like shoes
babies do not need shoes little babies
don't need shoes and honestly even socks
my babies never wear socks because they
just kick them off I would rather just
have like footed clothes I feel like I
listed enough those are a couple that I
feel like I just haven't really felt a
need for any plans to reopen Lua and
gray so I'm sure most of you guys
remember my clothing store that I had
for a lot of years and I think we closed
it it's been like a year now and I kind
of wanted to leave it with like the door
potentially being open if we wanted to
like reopen it but I also knew when I
was closing it that I wanted to have
another baby and that I just literally
could not like like keep going the way
that I was going with work if I was
going to have another baby and now that
I have a baby and feel overwhelmed I
think I'm going to officially say that
the answer to that is no I don't think
we will ever reopen does that mean that
I would never have like another business
or something when my kids are a little
bit older no I feel like I would
consider that idea but I don't think now
that I'm like so far out of it that I
would open something like that again and
do clothing again it was fun while we
did it but it definitely got harder once
I had more kids and now I have even more
kids than I did when we ended that so I
think unfortunately the answer to that
one is no was the adjustment from two to
three babies harder or easier than you
thought I feel like it's probably been
about the same as what I thought I was
very nervous and I did say that her
being in the niku for a little bit
didn't like make things easier but it
kind of made it slightly more smooth cuz
I could go to the ncu and just focus on
the baby and then come home and just
focus on the other kids obviously I
would have rather had her like not be in
the ncu and just be able to come
straight home but I feel like it's been
about the same as I thought and I
thought but it would be kind of hard so
yeah how is the SN working so you guys
can see right here I have this SN we've
had it for a couple weeks now but we
went out of town so I think that she
only slept in it for like maybe two or
three nights before we left now she's
been in it again for a couple of nights
I feel like it does help and I do like
it and recommend it but what I will say
about it is I wouldn't get it unless you
feel like you need it like I wouldn't
get it as your main bassinet before you
even have your baby and before you see
like how they are and how they sleep I
don't think it's something that I would
have needed with my other girls because
they didn't really have a problem with
like their normal bassinet but this baby
does not really like to sleep in her
bassinet so the snoo has been helpful if
you don't know what it is it's like a
bassinet that like I don't really know
if it has like a motion sensor or what
but basically it will kind of like Rock
Your Baby if it starts to cry and then
if it's like still crying it will rock
it like a little bit more so it kind of
just helps to like soothe your baby and
it's been super helpful since this baby
wakes up a lot she's actually been a
little bit better now that I've been
giving her a little bit more formula I
feel like she's like allergic to
something in my breast milk because she
just spits up so much and she was so sad
it's like so weird that she's doing
better on formula versus breast milk but
she is so I've kind of been like combo
feeding but since I'm doing more formula
now she's done a little bit better with
like sleeping and stuff in general so I
do feel like that and this new have been
super helpful I'm just renting it I'm
renting it for like a month I rented it
on baby quip I think you can also maybe
rent it like from their website but I
was just able to get it on baby quip
faster and I was very desperate so I
just did that and I think that the lady
said this is like their slow season or
something so basically it was like a
better price than usual so I just rented
it for like a month and I might extend
and do it for like a little bit longer I
need to kind of like test it out and see
how my baby does sleeping just in her
basinet but anyways I do recommend but I
will say I wouldn't get it until you
feel like you have your baby and you're
like seeing how they are and you feel
like you need it just cuz it is kind of
expensive and you can get something
that's like less expensive next question
what was your nicku experience like I
feel like we actually had a pretty good
ncu experience because we had our own
room since I've talked about it some
people have been like oh my NICU it like
was kind of like a baby nursery where
there's like tons of babies like all in
the same room and the parents just have
like a chair to hang out in that would
have been really hard because it's just
like a lot to be there and it's very
draining and just like medical stuff in
general when there's like nurses and
stuff in and out and there's like boards
everywhere and like beeping and just a
lot of stuff going on it was really nice
to have like our own private space so I
feel like that made it a little little
bit like easier and then also just the
fact that my baby was doing well the
whole time there wasn't anything that
was like very big or concerning only
reason she was in there is just cuz she
was early and basically just kind of
needed to like catch up with things so
that made it a little bit less stressful
knowing that there wasn't like something
that was wrong and she was basically
just there to like get a little bit of
extra help that she needed so as hard as
it was I feel like it could have been a
lot harder so I don't want to say it was
good but we got through it and it was
not too traumatic thankfully do you
still see yourself doing content
creation for the next 5 years honestly
probably I've never really thought about
what I would do after this because I've
just been doing this for so long now my
15E anniversary is coming up it's in
August so I've literally been doing this
since I was a child since I was 14 as
long as I am still able to like provide
for my family and this is making sense
for me then I feel like I'll still be
doing it I really don't have a reason to
like do something else if I wasn't
making any money then I couldn't do it
because I literally like would not have
time to have a different job and be a
mom and do this because as much as
people think like it's not a job or
whatever it still takes up time so as
long as I'm still able to provide for my
family doing this I will be doing it but
in 5 years I will have been doing this
for 20 years which is crazy to think
about but you never know so next
question will you ever go blonde again I
really don't think so which is so crazy
because I used to get like not actually
offended but when I was blonde and
people would ask if I was ever going to
go back to my natural color I would be
like how can you even say that that
would look so ugly but I'm actually
obsessed with my hair color right now I
haven't dyed it since December of 2022
so you can see the top is like a little
bit darker than the bottom cuz it's kind
of grown out but it's grown out like
very natural maybe I can take off my
headband but my hair is kind of crazy on
the top but I love the color right now I
really don't see myself ever going
blonde especially not the type of blonde
that I was I feel like I would maybe add
like maybe a tiny bit lighter or
something kind of like a golden blonde
like '90s blonde kind of but I really
don't know if I ever will do that and I
definitely would never go as Blonde as I
was but it's so funny because I used to
think that like my natural color looks
so hideous and now I think it's like
such a good color only like half of it
is actually my natural color but just
like being darker like this I really
like yeah I feel like I answered that
question kind of a lot but I get asked
that a lot so do you miss sharing more
of the girls SL relationship although we
understand why you are not I do not miss
it at all I wish that I had done things
differently like from the beginning with
sharing less of them so I really don't
miss sharing anything I love not sharing
obviously I still share like a little
and I still share like Mom content so
I'll share like what I made them for
lunch or something like that but I'm not
sharing them in the way that I I was and
I don't miss doing that at all and I try
to not have regrets but if I could go
back in time I would share like so much
less of what I ever shared so no I do
not miss it at all it's just so much
better to like keep my family private
and like not share online so the next
one kind of goes with that actually it
says what regrets do you have about your
past on YouTube like I said I try to not